How to Pick a Girl Up
Have you ever witnessed an average-looking guy picking up a gorgeous girl and wondered how on earth he did it? Well it may surprise you to learn that knowing how to pick a girl up properly is something which any man can master, when he knows what he’s doing. If you are looking for advice, then read on to find out more….
First impressions count, so you need to get your approach absolutely right first time – there will be no second chances! Most guys fall into one of two camps. Either they feel nervous about approaching women and end up making a mess of their words and body language, or they saunter up with a confident swagger and come across as arrogant. Both of these are a massive turn-off. However, there are ways to achieve that middle ground; where you can be confident enough to pick up girls and be sure of a successful result. Here’s how….
So, what is the best way to approach a girl you like the look of?
Firstly, you need a positive mindset. Go over to a girl believing that she will like you. However, the key here is to be as natural as possible. Be yourself. Don’t try and make clever jokes or use corny pickup lines: they will rarely work. And before you even make your approach and during your interaction with a girl, you need to be able to read her body language so that you don’t approach her at the wrong time.
How can I suss a girl out then?
You have to firstly check out her body language cues. Her non-verbal communication can give you a lot of useful information. For example, she might be having a bad day and simply not be interested in any kind of an approach. If that’s the case, then quite honestly, you’re better off looking elsewhere. Trying too hard with a girl is off-putting, so you’re better off going for someone who will be open to being approached. Body language is also very helpful once you’ve first started talking to a girl, as you should be able to read whether or not she has an interest in you.
What are these cues I’m looking for?
Reading a girl’s body language is easier than you might think. If you’re waiting to make an approach, see if she’s smiling, laughing, having a good time. This is as good a time as any to give it a shot. Walk confidently over to her and start a conversation – as naturally as possible. Leave those one-liners behind and just think of some kind of ‘opener’ which will lead to a natural conversation between the two of you.
What kind of opener can I use?
You’re best off making some kind of observation about what is going on around you. This is a more natural approach and it doesn’t necessarily look like you’re trying to pick her up. Once you have a conversation started, you want to gradually win her over. A little observational humor and gentle banter can easily do this. The most important thing is that you don’t come across as the desperate guy who wants to do nothing but hook up with her: that is the ultimate turn-off!
What should I look for to see if she’s interested?
Continue to read her body language. Is she smiling naturally, making good eye contact, touching her hair and angling her body towards you? If she’s doing any of this, then you’re in with a great chance of success! Just be sure to keep your own body language in check and don’t appear too eager, as you want to tease her just a little and keep the spark going between you.